Tuesday, March 02, 2010
I know it's not by the calender dates but I hate january and february and glad to get those months over and done with.
Well, it has been like spring the last two days hasn't it?
Last week Geoff and I finally had our holiday, a week in Eastbourne. It was lovely, including the weather.
We had to cancel our holiday twice last year as geoff was not fit enough to go so it was third time lucky, and it worked.
Last monday we arrived in Eastbourne and it was bitterly cold, no snow, but the wind cut right through you, we thought it was going to be like that all week, but no, the sun came out on tuesday and it staid out all week.
Couldn't believe it. It was great.
We did go out every day visiting the local towns and villages and how wonderful it was to forget time.
When you work all you do is think of the time, time to get to work, time to start work and time to finish work.
It was so nice not to have to bother about that.
Geoff and I have been going to the same hotel for 30 years or more.In fact we had our honeymoon there in 1985. Sounds daft now when people are going abroad to get married and have their honeymoon in Hawaii or something but it suited us at the time. It's the T&G.W.U. hotel and it's right on the front of the beach.The union, now Unite, owns it. Great views but the beach isn't sand it's pebbles so that a little disappointing but you can still walk around it.
They have a band stand a few yards from the hotel and in the summer they have singers and concerts there every night and it's lovely to walk down and listen to them.People travel from afar to listen to it. It really is great and everyone is so enjoying the concerts.
On the last night which is in August they have a fantastic firework display to celebrate the end of the season, you,ve never seen so many fireworks!
It's really brill.
Anyway, we did have a great time, did nothing,which was great,(LOL) but that's my kind of holiday these days!
Of course, all I've done since coming back is washing and ironing!!!
but it has been so good, I don't mind really.
Friday, February 19, 2010
When we let her out of the basket she ran out of the house and we didn't see her for about 3 hours. We thought it was because she hates being in the basket and was just running away in case we put her in it again.
Finally, she came home, and she looked awful.
We realised that there was something else wrong but couldn't quite work out what it was.
That night we went to bed as usual and thought that snowdrop would be better in the morning.
We were wrong.
I got up normal time and usually shes all around me purring and rubbing herself against me begging for her breakfast, but not that morning. She just laid on the sofa,she hasn't got a bed as such, but she didn't move.
I was worried about her, and called her to the kitchen to see whether she would come and start begging me for food, but she didn't, she just laid there.
I went over to her and looked at her and saw that her eyes were very droopy and she never moved.
I left her alone to see if she would perk up. The day went on but she did not improve.
We didn't know what to do.
Eventually we decided to ring the vets and ask them. This we did to be told that sometimes cats can have a reaction tot he injections and just to leave her till shes better. She should get better as the day went on. Well, by the end of the day she still was no better, she hadn't eaten or drunk anything at all.
In fact, she hadn't moved from the sofa.
We went to bed that night and we were worried sick about her.
However, when I got up the next morning she was brighter, not quite her normal self but she was nudging me for food so then I knew she was better. She got brighter and brighter as the day went on and returned to her normal self.
last tuesday we took her to the vets for the same injections again.
We explained what had happened to her and the vet said she could have a reaction for 24 hrs, but not to worrying about it. As long as she isn't physically sick or anything like that.
We took snowdrop home and she was fine, until we got her in.
As soon as we let her out of the basket she ran upstairs and laid on the bed. Now that is somewhere she never normally goes but we weren't to bothered about it as we thought it was just a reaction about going to the vets.
Later, I went up to bed and I couldn't believe my eyes, she was curled up in a ball and her face looked a little swollen. I walked over to her nad stroked her, lifting up her face so I could see it better, her eyes looked swollen and she looked like she was in a different world.
She was very sleepy.
We remembered what the vet had said so we just left her alone to sleep it off.
The next day, (Wednesday) I went to work and asked geoff to watch over her.
This he did and when I came home from work he told me she hadn't moved and had not eaten or drunk anything that day.
Time went on and we tried to coax her down but to no avail. She was not going to move.
We kept going over to her and stroking her so she knew we were there, but there was no real reaction from her.
The next day. (Thursday)
Same thing, I left for work and she still hadn't moved from the bed.
She was not interested in anything, from water to food, and believe you me, for her not to be interested in food means she does not feel well as she loves her food.
The next day. (Friday)
I arrived home from work to find snowdrop laying by the fire.
(they're not daft are they, eh?)
Geoff said that this was the first time she had moved from the bed and had slowly made her way down about half an hour before I came home.
Still no food or water though.
Slowly but surely, snowdrop finally went to the kitchen and even jumped up and was nudging my hand as if to ask for food.
I gave her a little bit and she ate that o.k.
It is now 10.p.m. and she has been out for about ten minutes and got some fresh air.
She is now laying on the sofa but she is now more alert than she has been.
Thats been three days shes been ill.
I'm not sure if we will let her have those injections again because of the reaction she gets.
We just don't know what to do, but we have got a year to decide.
Dreadful as it is I really think she should have those injections, rather than catch cat flu because that can kill.
Thank god it's only once a year.
I
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
My mum, Ruth and my step father, Bruce, my sister Yvonne who is 55, her daughter Dawn and Dawns husband Simon and their beautiful daughter Keira.
Yvonne has a son Darren but he has moved away from Oxford now.
Dawn and Simon live in Merton, a small village on the outskirts of Oxford and we always pop in to see them on the way down to see my mum.
Geoffs daughter Laura and her husband Martin also live in the same village, and they only live about 5 doors away from each other so thats really nice.
However Laura and Martin were out so we popped down the road went to see dawn and simon.
Yvonne was there, because unfortunately, she had slipped in the snow a couple of weeks earlier and broke her arm.
Not once, but in two places, poor girl she was in agony.
She had been to hospital and they had put a sling on it,they don't plaster it now apparently, and she was staying with dawn and simon because she couldn't do anything with only one arm working.
She couldn't dress herself, wash her hair, nothing.
At first she was reasonably happy and laughing and joking with us, but then she started to get a bit depressed (not surprisingly really) and kept mentioning Jeff.
Jeff , who was 59,was her husband for about 25 years, I can't remember exactly how long they were married, but it was a long time, when suddenly, two years ago, he had a brain haemorrhage and died. Totally,unexpectedly, out of the blue.
One day he was fine, the next day he had gone.
It was such a shock, no-one could believe it.
We were devastated.
And that is the problem, it was two years ago now, and although there is no time limit for grieving, yvonne cannot let go at all.
You will always remember the person who died and the things you used to do together,you would remember the good times and the bad.
Yvonne, I'm afraid, cannot except the fact that Jeff has gone.
She says the same thing everytime we see her:
"Huh, what about his mum and Trevor, (Jeffs stepfather) they are still alive.
It's not fair."
Please don't get her wrong, she does not mean any harm to them, not at all, but she just feels it is unfair that they are still alive and Jeff is not.
We looked at each other and I told her that no-one can answer that because (thankfully) no-one knows when they are going to die and who decides where,when and how.
I told her we were all devastated when it happened and although it has been two years now, we still can't really believe ourselves that it has happened.
She should now look ahead and respectfully put that behind her and think about tomorrow.
That was greeted with:
"What have I got to look forward too?"
Geoff then turned to her and explained that she had a lot to look forward to. She is young and attractive, she could easily find someone else and settle down with them.
That did not go down well, she looked at geoff and almost choked on her drink.
She couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
And thats the problem.
Thats what worrying me and geoff.
We are both concerned that she will never let him go, and never get on with her life.
I know that Jeff would want her too.
But we cannot convince her of that.
I do not mean to sound hard or uncaring to Yvonne, but I am so worried that she will end up a bitter, angry woman, with no life of her own.
Her children have their own lives now, so whats going to happen to her?
It is a worry.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Sunday, January 10, 2010
I must admit that as much as I enjoy Christmas it is a busy time, not just seeing all the family, but at work as well. The overtime is neverending.
I have never been so tired, the week before Christmas Asda was open from 6 a.m. till 12.00 p.m.
they asked quite a few of us to start at 6 a.m. and so I did, finished at 1.p.m. so it wasn't that bad actually, but by the end of the week we were all shattered.
New year's eve we opened at 6.a.m. as well.
The silliest thing happened New years eve, we were so busy!!!!!!
It was worst than Christmas week and to this day we don't know why.
We were only closed for one day,New Years day, but you would have thought we were going to close for a week.
Anyway, we are now, finally, back to normal.
In fact on Wednesday they were sending people home(me!!!) because there was no customers.
We do not have to go, and we don't get paid either, but it is better than stting there doing nothing.
Anyway, will look forward to doing some more blogging from now on.
Trying to read yours of course but haven't been able to read all of them, so a lot of catching up to do, wishing you all the best for the new year and I hope you are all well.
Monday, December 28, 2009
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Friday, December 11, 2009
I don't mean the meaning of christmas, I mean the buying presents the wrapping of them and delivering them.
Most years I like to get all the present buying and the wrapping done by the end of November so I can just relax and enjoy December, although there is a lot of overtime then, I don't mind doing it, it adds to the atmosphere as most people are in really good moods, all looking forward to christmas day.
But this year, I'm still buying presents now,and there's only 2 weeks to go.
I'm all behind. As they say.
I haven't even got to do a lot of food shopping because this year Geoff and I are going to our favourite Indian restaurant for christmas dinner.
We've done this before and it's great, a hot curry and no washing up.
Brilliant.
On boxing day, we're going to Oxford to see the family and we will be having lunch at my mums.
That will be a traditional christmas dinner.
I won't be cooking until sunday, so that's great.
We never have guests on christmas day because all of my step children (now adults in their 40's!) are married or have partners and they go to their mums or their mum-in-laws, for christmas day.
We don't mind, as long as they enjoy themselves, that's great.
It's been a funny year what with geoff being ill with his heart and then with his gout.
I think I will be happy to get this year over with really and start a new year.
There's always one year isn't there?
Talking about geoffs heart problem we went to the hospital last tuesday for his check-up and they told him they did not want to see again. We were very pleased with that.
No more going there, which is a relief really because the car parking is awful and we do wait quite a while to see a doctor
So, we should enjoy christmas now, and I've still got one more present to get!
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Thats right, I said were.
I came home from work on wednesday to find geoff in his chair (thats not unusual actually!) with his foot up on a chair.
I looked at it and nearly screamed.
It was huge.
His foot had swollen so much you could hardly see his toes.
We knew exactly what it was.
GOUT!
He had this a few years ago in his right foot, now he's got it in his left foot.It is so painful.
I got a cold compress on it which helped with the pain but when we took the compress of it hadn't done a lot of help with the swelling.
We knew it was going to take more than one compress to relieve that.
So, for 48 hours geoff stayed in his chair and even slept in it,but we knew he wanted tablets for this,so went to doctors and got a prescription, tablets,and they have helped a lot.
Geoff went up to bed yesterday (saturday) and he's stayed there all day and today.
He is more comfortable in bed.
I am keeping very fit, running up and down stairs.
We were going to Eastbourne, I love that place and was so looking forward to going there. We haven't had the best of years, have we?
Never mind, these things happen.
Look forward to the new year and we'll go next year.
We both need a holiday then!
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
In fact, I had written it under another one which was nothing to do with his blog.
So, I apologise for that, my mistake.
The one I was referring to was called:
Britain edging closer to a banana republic.
What he was saying was that britain has become worse since labour got in, but I tend to disagree with that as britain has been like this for years.
I felt I had to say something about it, but I couldn't say it on the comments page because my reply would be too long to write it in there.
Lets take the first paragraph about drunken/drug crazed yobs.For which he is blaming 24 hour drinking. We did not have 24 hour drinking but there was still the drunks.
There are drunken/drug crazed yobs around, but it isn't a recent happening. It's been going on for years. And I mean years.
I remember when I was a teenager, many years ago now, when I used to go out with my friends at the weekends there were always drunks around.Every friday and saturday night, mostly men, they would just get blotto, because it was the weekend and they did it every weekend. Some just got drunk and somehow managed to get home and others were arrested, although you weren't actually arrested for being drunk in those days, but if they became violent, and many did, then they were arrested.
We used to keep away from them as they weren't our friends and not in 'our group'
Not so sure if there was so many druggies then, but there were probably a fair few.
But can't really comment on them as I'm not sure if they become violent like the drunks.
But there were druggies in those days.
Dickiebo then went on to say about the Eastern European immigrants.
Well, this is where I actually agree with him.
There are far too many immigrants here, if fact, I have never agreed with anyone so much.
I am sick of them, and I am not the only one.
Enough said about that I think.
Another comment he made was about the courts and their lenient sentencing, in some cases he's right, but there aren't that many but when it does happen it's headlines in the papers and, of course, we think all cases are like this.
They aren't.
Smoking.
Now, this is close to my heart!
I am a smoker and I loathe having to go out in the bitter cold to have a ciggie.
At work we all have a fifteen minute break and that turns into 25.
The reason is because we have to go to our lockers and get our coates, have a wee, wash our hands, and then walk down a rather long corridor to go out into the cold.This all takes time from our breaks.
The non smokers have caught onto this now and they now have at least 20 mins break, and who can blame them?
They don't blame us because they know it's the law but it is still infuriating.
The whole point of this is to say that it isn't since labour came into power that these problems have started, the problems have been here for years.
Who do we blame?
I don't know.
Sometimes I think it's the parents fault, for not discipling their kids and letting them do what they want or is it society????
Whatever that is.
No-one has ever explained to me what 'society' means.
I'm old school and believe you should discipling children, even smack them.
My god, I sound like one of those strict school marms, but that is what I believe.
Dicipling starts from when you are a child.
Saturday, November 07, 2009
Friday, November 06, 2009

Friday, October 30, 2009
Last week I was working on my checkout when suddenly I saw Rosaleen and my brother Bob in Asda.
It was a shock as they actually live in Brighton.
They laughed when they saw my face as I just looked in total shock!
Well, they came to the shop because they were going to Birmingham to see some friends. They had lost their son, in Afghanistan a year ago in a road side bomb. As you probably remember bob and rosaleen lost their son, sean, in a road side bomb attack, also in Afghanistan.
I was finishing at I p.m. and as it was about 12.45 they waited for me to finish and we went for a coffee in the town.
We were laughing and chatting away, and they were openly talking about sean and what he had done whilst there in Afghanistan,and how he helped a lot of the children as there was no schooling, and how the soldiers all gave them books to read and just generally helped them in any way they could.
Suddenly rosaleen said about how sometimes she stands in the living room and cries for her son and wonders why it had to be him.
Well, yes, we can all sympathise with that.
She said that on one occasions she was feeling particularly sorrowful and was just sitting on her own in the living room thinking of sean when she had noticed a robin in the garden.She stared at it thinking how beautiful it was when suddenly it seemed to turn and look at her and then, quick as a flash, it flew off.
She didn't see it for a few days and really had forgotten all about it.
One sunday they were both doing the gardening when suddenly a robin flew down and landed on a tree they have in their garden.
It took her breath away, and she stood their staring at it as she remembered when she had seen it before.
She didn't say anything to bob and carried on doing the gardening and every now and then she would turn and look at the robin, watching its every movement, suddenly after about half an hour, it chirped, flapped it's wings, and flew off.
That night bob knew something was bothering Rosaleen and he asked her what was wrong. At first she was a little hesitant about telling him about this robin as she was worried bob would say that it was just a robin and that was that.
After a couple of hours they were sat in their living room having a well earned cup of tea when rosaleen just came out with the story about the robin.Bob, being bob, asked why she thought it was important that a robin had come into the garden, and she said she wasn't sure exactly but it wasn't the first time, and she had seen it before.
Days went on and no more was said.
On the friday of that week rosaleen had just finished work and was walking towards her front door when a robin flew over her head.
It made her jump because it came so close.
Thats when it hit her, she had seen this robin so many times, and on occasions it got quite close to them.
She looked at me and said:
"I swear thats sean."
Well, I sat there and I felt quite strange to be honest. I wasn't quite sure what to say. I asked her if she thought it possible to which she replied:
"Oh, I don't know, it's just strange that everytime I think of sean, this robin appears."
Where's the coincidence I hear you ask?
Well, there is a lovely lady called sheila who I have known for years. She comes to Asda first thing in the morning to collect her bit of shopping before going to work.
Sheila, who is in her fifties, came in one day looking particularly unwell, I asked her what was wrong and she said she had lost her husband suddenly a week before.
There was tears all around.
Now, I have never met her husband, but she told me he had cancer but he doing so well with the treatment, that the consultant had praised him only 2 weeks prior, saying just how well he had done and they were thinking of realising him from the hospital.
Although he would be an out-patient there was no need to keep him in anymore.
They were both delighted with this news.
Unfortunately, just after being released he died unexpectedly.
She was devastated.
A few weeks went by and she came in to Asda, always putting on a brave face but you could see that she just couldn't really come to terms with his death.
One day, she turned to me and asked me if she could tell me something that had happened, I ,of course, said yes.
I thought perhaps I could help her in some way.
She then went on to explain that since her husbands death they've had a robin in their garden every day. At first she took no notice of it but after a while she realised she was looking out of the window waiting for this robin to appear.
And it always did.
I saw her last week and I asked her about the robin, I think I was expecting her to say it had gone, but, no, it was still there.
In her back garden.
She swears that it is her husband come to see if shes o.k.
So you see, thats two people telling me about robins in their gardens, who they believe to be their loved ones.
I know a lot of people will say it is a coincidence and you see a lot of robins everyday and because of whats happened you put too much of an emphasis on it.
But, it just makes you wonder, doesn't it?
Friday, October 23, 2009
He's now got a stinking cold.
So have I and the cat, Snowdrop.
Last friday geoff said how ill he felt, he was dizzy and hot and cold and kept sneezing. I reminded him that every year when he has his jab, he always feels ill for a few days afterwards.
On saturday he woke up and nearly blew the house down with his sneezing, and thats when we realised he had a cold. He was rough for the weekend but felt better by monday.
Or so we thought.
Monday night he went to bed and he didn't get up until wednesday.
Luckily tuesdays is my day off, so I could see to him. Geoff asked me to ring the doctors and check that it wasn't going to effect his heart problem,and also to ask if he could have some anti-biotics for his chest. I spoke to the doctor and he told me he wasn't happy giving geoff tablets without seeing him, well, geoff could not gte to the surgery that day as he was too ill.
The doctor did not offer to come out and see him.
Although geoff wasn't very happy with that, but as I said, it was just a cold, nothing too serious.
So, all day I made cups of tea and only cooked a little dinner for him tuesday night, as he wasn't very hungry, and believe you me, that must mean geoff is ill for he never gives up his food.
Tuesday night I went to bed and woke up wednesday morning, and felt dreadful!
I had picked it up, thanks geoff!!!
I rang in sick for that day and went back to work on thursday,as you can't have a lot of time of sick at Asda,but I was still feeling rough.
Everybody was asking me how I was, in particular Matt, who is new to Asda but we are really good friends and we have a good laugh.
When I got home, geoff sad he was worried about Snowdrop as she wasn't eating.She was also dribbling like mad from her mouth. I told him that she hadn't eaten a lot on wednesday but I admit I was too ill to worry too much about her.
We tried to feed her again, just to see what she did, and she sniffed it and walked away.
Well, you can't leave that alone, so a trip to the vet was in hand.
Getting her basket out of the cupboard I picked her up and of course, she struggled. She scratched me which made me jump, then she struggled and manage to jump out of my arms and she ran away.
She was gone for over an hour!!!
We ran the vets and explained and they told us to wait and see if she comes back, if she does, then just bring her down.
She did come back, very slowly, and a little on edge.
However, we did get her in her basket and took her down to the vet.
They were laughing when we got there, because, once you get Snowdrop in the basket, she is so docile!!! they couldn't believe she would react the way she did.
The vet examined her but couldn't really work out what was wrong, her temperature was a little higher than normal, but nothing to worry about.
The vet examined every inch of her to see whether she was in pain, but she didn't flinch, which meant she wasn't in any pain at all.
While we were there I sneezed a couple of times and apologised for doing so. So did geoff.
The vet then announced that she thought Snowdrop may have a bit of a cold herself!
This surprised us as she has her yearly injections for the cat flu etc.
The vet explained that she could still get a cold,and thankfully we brought her in straight away so they could deal with it quickly. She gave Snowdrop an antibiotic injection and gave us 10 tablets to give her twice daily for a week. She is making good progress now, and beginning to eat again.
That will clear everything up, she explained.
We laughed actually because as I said to geoff, that is exactly whats happened to him. He had his antiflu jab and still got a cold. He gave it to me and then gave it to Snowdrop.
So, what a week it's been.
All three of us bad and what about matt, you may ask.
You've guessed it:
I gave him my cold now!!!!
Well, theres nothing like share and share alike between friends, is there?



